Marriages start to die when couples stop talking. It's just the truth. Communication is a gracious gift from God—one that allows two individuals to express and understand thoughts, emotions, intentions, and perceptions.
It's absolutely critical for every married couple to keep the communication lines wide open. If ever they shut down, that should be seen as a huge red flag.
In our experience, problems with communication are always the result of some sin, be it subtle or overt. Pride may keep one of us from apologizing, shame may compel us to hide or tell half-truths, and unchecked anger might cause us to say unloving things in hurtful ways.
This is where Jesus changes everything. When we are in him, we see things correctly—we see ourselves and our sin accurately. We see our pride for what it is: foolishness. We recognize our shame as a lie from the enemy to keep us from not repenting of sin. And with Christ in view, anger is diffused as grace floods our hearts.
There is nothing you can't talk through when Christ is at the center of your marriage. The key is keeping him there and looking to him FIRST.
With Christ as the center, you can stand fast in your identity because of what he has already finished on the cross. Remember: you are an accepted, loved, child of God. You have been washed clean and made free of condemnation. You are free to love unconditionally because the one who loves you is relentless and unwavering.
May your marriage be marked by communication that never stops. As long as you are breathing, you can work through anything—for your good and God's glory.
Stay fierce,
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