Ban of Gilead

  What's Your Plan For That Relationship? Ladies and Gents, any relationship or courtship without purpose and mission, will be a thing of "Had I known" at last. When you fall in love without your brain, it makes you visionless or lust-driven. Definition of relationship will guide you to your desired "destination" and equip you with more knowledge, wisdom, and skills for the journey ahead (Marriage). After 1year, 2years, 3years of Cooking for him, doing his laundry, sleeping with him, video calls, and in some cases, paying his house rent together....You mean to tell me you haven't asked Boo "What are your plans for us if he can't say it??? But Victor, if I ask him, it will appear like I'm desperate. If he can't see your services and formalities as a thing of desperation, why should a harmless question like such be a question of desperation? Listen! It is better to be with someone who needs you than who you carry yourself to... If you'r...

  * DEAR MEN!*    *DEAR MEN!!*      *DEAR MEN!!!* 🤏 If you meet a lady in a group, don't take her for granted. Always have it in mind that if not the group you both wouldn't have met........ *RESPECT HER*  🤏 If she allows you to fuck her, dear brother please...... *RESPECT HER*  🤏 Sleeping with you means seeing her nakedness, that is she has nothing to hide for you.... *RESPECT HER*  🤏 If she takes you first in everything with maximum attention brother....... *RESPECT THAT*  🤏 If she's married and she's not shy to tell you she loves you, loving a man isn't easy..... *RESPECT HER FEELINGS*  🤏 If she's faithful and doesn't nag, my dear men, you deserve peace, adore and *RESPECT HER*  🤏 If she cares for you and can't do without you, Uncle please always make her happy..... *RESPECT HER*   *_REMEMBER, THAT RELATIONSHIP CAN GO BEYOND WHERE YOU MET._*  _ADORE, ADMIRE AND CHERISH SUCH RELATIONSHIP_  ...

  *MY WIFE DOES NOT KNOW THAT I KNOW.*  I have been married for 14years 'we' have 3 kids (all boys) but none of them belongs to me. I know this for a fact but my wife does not know that I know. Let me explain. 5years before I met my wife, I was involved in a car accident together with two of my friends. We were traveling for my business trip when a trailer hit our car most of the people lost their lives but I survived by God grace  I spent about 11months at the hospital and that left me with a condition that says I can't have children. I gave my Life to Jesus Christ and became a committed Christian after the incident. I am also doing well in my business,  5years later and met my wife in the process. I did not tell her about my condition because I was hopeful that God will heal me. 6years into our marriage my wife got pregnant and had 'our' first child. To be sure, I secretly went for a DNA TEST and it was clear I wasn't the father. I repeated the test for all ...

  *THINGS WOMEN FIND ATTRACTIVE IN MEN*  Following are 8 traits, both physical and behavioural, that actual scientific research has found that women find attractive in men. These are not mere assumptions or opinions, but actual conclusions that behavioural scientists have come to following extensive research. And what’s even better, they’re actually traits that you can actively work on cultivating and improving. 🎯 *Kind and Generous Spirit* Perhaps one of the most important things when trying to attract a woman is a kind and generous spirit. No woman will truly be able to respect a man who does not respect both himself and others. Kindness to friends, family, and strangers is the key to finding true happiness in all respect of a relationship. 🎯 *The way a man groom himself.* Grooming is no different. It’s a reflection of your pride. If you walk around smelling foul, you’re not just going to struggle more with women; literally everyone will walk away to save their nose. By sm...

  * FIRST DATE IDEAS (Don'ts......For Ladies )* Aunty, it is well with You.. You're going on a first Date with Uncle Leveticus..... Uncle now asked you to tell him about your self, you answered him that you are owing money for Rent and school fees .. Hah. Aunty, na so? First date is to get to know each other, it's not a time to offload problems (financial and otherwise) on each other. If you know your stomach is 6ft deep, eat at home before going out with a guy, don't go there and order for food as if you want to eat yourself to death. Do you know how much he has presently (cash, and in the account)?  "Order anything you want", you now ordered food for 5 People plus takeaway, is there famine where you came from.?  Tell me about you self, and all you have to tell him about yourself are problems, debts, pain, sorrow, tears, heartbreaks, hah.. Aunty, Aunty, Aunty, how many times did I call you? Know what to say and what not to, you can't be telling him person...

  STOP DATING LEFT....... You must be the best of you to attract your other best half.. Dating with the right intent is good but putting it into action, is the best... Everyone deserves happiness, hence don't apply hope where it isn't needed.. If you're dating without marriage at heart, you could easily hurt the heart that loves you.... # Dating Advice # 1. DATE a man who is ready to settle down and not one that comes to check "if it will work out" ~ If sex becomes the issue; love can never prevail.  2. Never ask a man " When are you coming to see my people? " ~ Give yourself insurance before seeking assurance... ~ Don't search for a husband; rather seek for job opportunities. 3. " I will marry you " " Be the mother of my future kids" Listen; ~ Those who you hold dearly to your heart are those who are likely to walk away boldly without a flinch.. Therefore; ~ Whosoever that deserves you, will "fight" for your love.. ~ Pr...

  Question: "She says she won't join me in my church after our wedding, what do I do?" Answer: It's quite simple really Amos 3:3 "Can two work together except they be in agreement?" The answer is No Ideally, because the Man is the Head as so ordained by God, it follows that a lady who accepts to marry a Man is also accepting to Follow him as he Leads Her. And one of the areas she is to follow the Man apart from location of residence is in place of worship.  However, this issue is also very much up to the parties involved and should be discussed and addressed BEFORE the couple say I DO.  As a Lady, do not marry a Man you know you can't/won't worship in his church after you're wedded, except you've talked and he has agreed that you can worship in yours, otherwise.............  Dear Brother, If you don't mind, then give her permission to worship in her church after you become one. But if you know you would want you and your wife to worship i...

  *FIRST DATE IDEAS (For Brothers )* First Date is a time to get to know more about each other. AND to have a good time, relax and begin bonding.. Crack jokes and have a nice meal.   It is not a time to launch a full scale investigation into her past, present and future participle. There will be other dates na.  Ask about her family, about her education, her hobbies, her fears.. But easy with the questions, before the dates starts to resemble an interview abi audition.  Do not be in a hurry to ask her questions that are way too personal and invasive. Let her feel close and safe with you first, let her get into the groove. You can't be asking a lady if she's a virgin on the first date (even 5th date self), or if she has stretch marks, telling her you don't like stratch marks oh... How? .  And some of you, you'll go for a Date that will last 5 hours and you'll tak for 4 hours. Are you Sidney Talker? Or you're related to Basket Mouth? Don't get carried away an...

  *THE KING FIRST * Some days ago, my son challenged me: "Why do you always serve daddy's food first?" I simply said, "He is the king of the house, his food gets dished first".  "You ought to serve me first..." He argued, I shook my head and said "No, daddy is the head of the house, he is the king and the king must be served first..." he didn't agree but he kept quiet. I served some snacks yesterday evening shortly before dinner and my son requested for his, I told him to take it to daddy first before everyone gets served. He wanted his own first, I said "No, the king gets served first."  I gave dad two of the snacks and we all had one each, my son quickly blurted, "Why two? Why would you serve dad two and give me one?" I said because he is the king and the king is above us. He must be doubly served. Tonight while dishing dinner, he requested his to be served first, I said "no, the king must be served first" ...

  * LET GO OF THE UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHI P* Have you ever noticed that  Sometimes you got so stuck in a relationship to the extend that you start to think of compromising your core values just to keep a men, thinking maybe if you do this or give him this maybe he will notice you or he will change.  You start giving your everything, sleeping with him just to make it work and sometimes you lose yourself to the extend that you apologize for his faults, being stuck where you ain't wanted .  The more you give yourself, the more you feel broken but don't want to admit it.  The more you do so, the more you loose your value before him and he will continue to take advantage of you.  It so painful but you just have to let go and after a year or 2 you will thank that guy for rejecting you.  It is not going to be easy but you need to first admit that you are in a mess, find someone mature spiritually and trustworthy, confide in them and ask them to help you get out...

  DON'T HURT ANYONE INTENTIONALLY BECAUSE YOU WERE HURT BY SOMEONE ELSE. You dated someone in the past, you were all loving and caring, but for one reason or the other, your love was not reciprocated, the relationship ended, you got hurt, you were broken, you were turned apart, you even went into depression, then you made up your mind that someone else will get punished for it. 🩷🩷 You decided to punish an innocent person who had not idea, who had nothing to do with what you went through, an innocent person who all they want to do is to love and care for you, you no longer see their efforts because you have made up your mind not to, you're blinded by the past, you feel everyone that comes into your life came to hurt you. What ever happens to you in the past should be in the past, stop transferring aggression and frustration on an innocent person, if you really want to vent your anger on someone, look for the person who broke your heart and break their heart too, avoid hurting ...

  3 THINGS YOU CAN DO TO MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE SATISFYING A satisfying relationship or marriage is a happy and a fulfilling one.  It's one that makes you happy. It's does not come by chance or accident. A satisfying relationship or marriage is a product of deliberate effort by the two parties involved. If the two parties are not involved in making their relationship or marriage happy, it will not work. One person cannot make a relationship or marriage satisfying or successful.  It takes two to tango. Now, to make your relationship or marriage satisfying, you must do something. Until you do something, nothing will happen.  To make your relationship or marriage satisfying, here are the few things you need to do...   1. Treate your partner as you want to be treated How do you want your partner to treat you? Treat him or her that way.  You want your partner to love and respect you, surprise you with gifts, speak calmly to you, compliment you, ...

 Relationships don't work out like they used to because nowadays, most people just want sex, but not romance, these days, most people just want benefits, but not commitment, Nowadays most people just want company, but not attachment, Nowadays, most people just want comfort but not compassion. Nowadays most people just want attention, but not involvement, Nowadays, most people just want to be chased.   All dey want is money not love *Be very careful*

  *7 types of relationship you should NOT continue .* 1. The one that he only calls you at night, "agent of darkness" once is night that's when he remember that he has a girlfriend. he be like "baby come now... I miss you" asssi!  2. The one that she never have card to call you, she only call you when they need a favor (money) or when you just send them card but she can never use her money to call you my brother runnnn oooo! 🏃🏃🏃🏃 3. The one that is always busy. They will always say "baby you know the nature of my job...😨 but when the relationship is new their job doesn't have nature 🙄 they always call 24/7. 4. The one that will never give even when he/she has, aka gum(stingy person) Country is always hard for them, everyday country is hard yen yen. If you marry such person you will be carrying a man and woman responsibilities at the same time  5. The one that never for once plan the future with you, all he asked for is s*x Everytime, sis that'...

  ADVICE TO THOSE FALLING IN LOVE 1. When you fall in love, make sure it's with somebody who treats  you exactly how you  deserve to be treated. . 2. Love somebody who  wants to know everything  about you, from your  favourite colour to your childhood memories how you managed to  survive all those years. . 3. Love somebody who can make you laugh,  who kisses your forehead  and who notices all your  flaws but choses to see past them. . 4. Love somebody who listens to whatever is on  your mind, who protects you  and always reminds you  how blessed they are to  have found you. . 5. Love somebody who you can't stay mad at  for more than an hour  because you miss speaking to them, who knows every freckle on your face, every stretch mark on  your thighs, every scar and every tear. . 6. Love somebody who you can plan your future with,and most importantly  love somebody who is  God fearing. 7. Love so...

  He proposed...but I'm nervous about meeting my would be in-laws for the first time.  You have plans about meeting your spouse's parent for the first time? Congratulations.. This is for you🤗 ✔️YOUR APPEARANCE Do you believe in "dress how you want to be addressed?" Then, dress gorgeous, modest, neat and appealing. You can go for a cool colour outfit.  Wear what you are comfortable on🤷‍♀️ ✔️Greet everyone you come across, from small to big, child or adult with a charming and bright smile on your face. Age doesn't really matter at this point my dear.  It's not desperation, it is love.  ✔️PUBLIC DISPLAY OF AFFECTION🤨 I know you want to prove to your in-laws that you love their son/daughter but this doesn't really matter now.  It's normal that your emotions could make you become cold, nervous or robotic. Just be conscious and be you. Feel relaxed, feel home.  PLAYING WITH YOUR PHONE🤳❌ Let your phone in your bag for this short period.  Avoid being ...

HUSBAND IS NOT FROM CHURCH, HUSBAND IS FROM ABOVE In recent period I have spoken to quite several church ladies about being single and searching for, if there is one thing I can pick from all of them is "Mama, I need to change church, maybe someone might notice me elsewhere. Hmmm, I have once had this thought also This is my story, I pray someone will learn something from it. I am a church girl to the core both when I was single and now, no outing, not visiting friends, no party, asin, nothing social about me, all I do is school, work, market and church, that's my life circle till this moment and I am so much loving it, I am 100 per cent Church addicted lady. But It was a little frustrating when I was believing God for a life partner, I never met anyone new at that time, aside from my church brothers, all I saw then was the old faces of brothers in church (since Church was the only place we go frequently ) and to think that those brothers were just dancing around us then, leav...

  *THERE ARE FOUR TYPES OF CONFUSED MEN IN THIS WORLD.* 1. A man who doesn't want to raise another man's child but goes ahead and marries a woman who has a child and tells her to leave the child at her parent's home, instead of simply marrying a woman without a child at all. 🩷🩷 2. A man who marries a graduate with a degree or a diploma only to tell her to quit job and take care of children. If you wanted a housewife, why not marry a grade 2 dropout instead of killing dreams of someone who has worked so hard to reach that far? 3. A man who is a drunkard but goes ahead to marry a church girl and make her life a living hell. If you are a drunkard, marry your fellow drunkard and drink yourselves to madness without stressing anyone. 🧡🧡 4. A man who after impregnating a lady, he denies being the owner of the pregnancy. Later after the lady has struggled alone and now the child is a bit older, he now wants to be involved with the child. If the child was not yours while still i...

  HOW SHE GOT CONNECTED TO HER LIFE PARTNER  A True Life Testimony of a Pastor's Daughter  … … … … ... She sat all alone deep in thought about what could have gone wrong. She has fasted and prayed about it but she seems not to get an answer.    She is the daughter of a pastor, she has graduated but no call up letter for NYSC. Everyone she graduated with has gone for youth service while she is home. She has fulfilled all necessary requirements but what could have been holding the call-up letter?  She went to the NYSC office in Lagos but they said they couldn't handle the issue, so they sent her to NYSC headquarters ABUJA. ____ NYSC ABUJA   On reaching Abuja, before she could finish all the process it's already late, she couldn't go home anymore, she spent the night at a Christian sister's house that she met there. The next day was a sunday, she went to church with this sister. As she entered the church, the pastor stood amazed looking at her ste...

  I said "YES". "Say Yes, say yes, Everyone kept shouting". Gift whispered to me, Babe better say yes and don't fall pastor hands, husbands are scarce if you don't need him I will apply. So many thought ran through my mind, but I don't love this pastor, my spirit doesn't agree with his own.  He should have discussed with me before making a proposal in front of everyone In church. Yes! I will marry you pastor. I said yes so I won't embarrass the pastor, little did I know that the yes I said was a final bustop for me. I kept pastor on hold for two month, waiting to see if other suitor will come but none came. And so wedding plans continued. Guess what happened after the wedding. "Babe, this room is just for my prayers, don't go into it any day. I will clean it by myself. I never took my husband word serious, until one night, while I prayed I saw vision of a man tying my name together with a red doll.  He kept saying I tire your womb for th...

  *𝙃𝙊𝙒 𝙏𝙊 𝙆𝙉𝙊𝙒 𝘼 𝙈𝘼𝙉 𝙄𝙎 𝙎𝙀𝙍𝙄𝙊𝙐𝙎 𝘼𝘽𝙏 𝙔𝙊𝙐* 1. He will pursue you, and not just at night 2. He will be respectfully friendly towards you 3. He will search you out, wanting to know more about you including the mundane and not so pleasant stuff 4. He will be attracted to you but his interest will be beyond your physical looks 5. He will pay attention to you, wanting to look into your eyes 6. He will not be quick to say "I love you". Those words mean a lot to him and he wants to say them when he means them 7. He will open up about himself including the not so pleasant stuff 8. He will feel uncomfortable when he notices you are entertaining another man 9. He will want to know what kind of family you want to have in future  10. He will not rush you 11. He will care about your growth - spiritual, financial, emotional, professional  12. He will be proud to be associated with you 13. He will pay attention to your social media activity and posts  14. ...

 The Category Each Man Falls Into Int 21st century relationship, some men fall into four categories, namely : 1. A boy 2. A player  3. A confused man and  4. A real man. . A BOY A boy will always be a boy regardless of his age. Growing up and growing old is never the same. Growing old is mandatory while growing up is optional by choice.  A boy care less about what makes you happy as a woman. He knows nothing about putting a home together and he's not ready to learn. The woman will do the thinking and make decisions. He would be more concerned about his mode of dressing than his character.  A boy is loose, he will kiss and tell and talks about everything in his relationship to everybody and openly condemn his woman.  A boy will make his mum his next of kin even when he's married to a good wife and kids. A boy never worries about the future because he never wants to grow. He knows nothing about responsibility or being responsible. He will beat his woman and c...

  Do not marry a stingy fellow, do not, no matter what. What some of you call love seff, isssshh! I don’t get sometimes. You keep giving excuses over who doesn’t love you obviously. Who loves you must give to you. For God loves that he gave. Abraham love he gave is Isaac. Jesus also love he gave his own life. When someone loves you, there’s nothing they can’t give you, even to the point of denying themselves some comfort to shaa give you something. I remember some years ago, I and pleasure went to her Church and I had only transport money and little change over it in 2018. I had started a drama before I left home with her. Pleasure, I want to buy you a good gift. The drama over what I want to gift her was much that she couldn’t believe I can tru that.  I later told her: Do you know I can buyer you coater biscuit and pure water to settle yourself this afternoon?? She laughed and laughed, Michael, please don’t start again. I pre-informed her. So we got to Festac closing from Ch...

  HOW TO HANDLE QUARREL IN MARRIAGE The best for your marriage is not to quarrel at all. But if you must quarrel, you must learn to fight fairly, please bear the following in mind:  1. No physical combat; leave that to garage boys.  2. No foul language.  3. No threat of divorce or separation.  4. No condemnation, criticism or comparison of your spouse with other people.  5. Avoid referring to previous quarrels.  6. Speak the truth in love without shouting.  7. Do not reveal the secrets of your spouse to outsiders.  8. No silence treatment. Keep on talking in love to your partner until you can resolve the issue.  9. Self-blame system. Avoid blaming your spouse. Rather, note where you were wrong; do not be blind to your errors. No self-righteousness because it takes two to tango. Accept your mistakes humbly.  10. Apologize generously to your spouse.  11. Break the ice of malice.  12. Think positively about your spouse and ma...

  WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE FAITHFUL ? 1. Loving your spouse in public and in private 2. Cutting off an ex who is coming to confuse you or disrespect your spouse  3. Not participating in sexual jokes at the work place that lead to blurred lines 4. Sexting only your spouse and if your spouse is not much of a texter, choosing not to use that as an excuse to send suggestive messages to another  5. Avoiding to call other people of the opposite gender suggestive names that belong only to your spouse such as "Sweetheart", "Love", "Darling", "Baby" 6. Surrounding yourself with friends who encourage you to be faithful to your spouse and who can tell you off when you start to veer off 7. Looking away when you notice your eyes are desiring another person sexually. Do not feed lust  8. Choosing not to take care of another person of the opposite gender financially in secret yet neglecting your spouse  9. Telling off people who come at you to make sexual advanc...